tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1521803587987304379.post9204829802203704889..comments2023-10-02T10:52:14.534-04:00Comments on BossyBeautyApproved: Is Being a Black, Educated & Successful Women Dangerous in the Dating World? Ashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11252415650853904598noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1521803587987304379.post-4968715320356629722012-12-03T15:55:39.685-05:002012-12-03T15:55:39.685-05:00no it wasnt a ramble, i love to hear people take o...no it wasnt a ramble, i love to hear people take on this situation lol. you're right everyone isnt for everything and it may take longer for women like you and i to find someone worthy to be in a relationship! Continue to kiss these frogs and one day your prince charming will come! =)Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11252415650853904598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1521803587987304379.post-61223909040032840092012-12-03T09:47:14.500-05:002012-12-03T09:47:14.500-05:00Great post, hun!
I don't have any great advic...Great post, hun! <br />I don't have any great advice cause I'm still trying to see the truth in all of it myself. I have a strong personality for some it's hard to deal with it. It's cool, just means you aren't my equal. I'm just learning that. Everyone isn't for everyone. I think we get so caught up in the hype of being alone that we attract that energy. I'm all about dating and seeing where it goes. <br />Skirt down, legs together. <br />i know it was a ramble. lol.Teihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05464156518111373995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1521803587987304379.post-46569433659036776602012-11-15T03:40:39.476-05:002012-11-15T03:40:39.476-05:00awww you make me blush! Contact me anytime!
Besos...awww you make me blush! Contact me anytime!<br /><br />Besos!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1521803587987304379.post-38637575912151560412012-11-14T23:54:57.241-05:002012-11-14T23:54:57.241-05:00lol no your comment wasnt long at all. what you sa...lol no your comment wasnt long at all. what you said is 100% true. I will be googling that Willie Lynch letter because i would love to read it. Next semester i am taking a class on the black marital family and i am hoping this will better enlighten me on why so many of us black independent women are single or seem to settle for something we know is not what we desire!<br /><br />again i want to think you, i love when you come to my blog because you make me better understand alot of stuff, you're like a virtual mentor! thanks again!Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11252415650853904598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1521803587987304379.post-4831928198243298652012-11-14T20:01:17.654-05:002012-11-14T20:01:17.654-05:00As a teenager, I was a different kind of "bla...As a teenager, I was a different kind of "black girl". I listened to Alternative Rock, wore bell-bottoms, spoke educatedly, and had tons of friends from all ethnicities. Some black people used to criticize me for "acting white" but they never realized how much of an advocate I am for black rights, acceptance, anti-racism and reparations. For years, I was single always feeling like I wasn't accepted by either crowd. I wasn't black enough and I wasn't white or other enough. I took my mom's advice and made sure I took care of myself - I had a job, my own place, my own money and I strove for my ambitions. I decided that whoever was out there for me would be someone special and I knew that I'd have to search the world to find him. My advice is - never stop striving for what you believe in and don't be afraid to put yourself in a strange place when it comes to meeting a guy or your soul mate. Sometimes you meet "the one" at a time when you weren't expecting it. It sounds cliche but I met my husband at a club in Los Angeles but he was from Michigan and a breath of fresh air in comparison to the other guys I'd met in LA. Maybe that guy who isn't afraid to let a women be successful lives in Paris or China. Maybe he's in a classroom in graduate school or skydiving off Mt. Everest. My point is put yourself in different settings to find that guy who is special. He may not be the guy next door but he may be the guy from the next country. Shaharohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06908881744823537543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1521803587987304379.post-20582938515574340202012-11-13T23:45:47.587-05:002012-11-13T23:45:47.587-05:00Disclaimer: I am not an expert nor am I in a relat...Disclaimer: I am not an expert nor am I in a relationship myself, however I do have my thoughts on this matter.<br /><br />There is nothing wrong with being ambitious and chasing a dream, the same way there is nothing wrong with simply wanting to be a housewife and mother. What the independent women have to realize is that men like to feel needed, like they play an important part of a woman's life. Now imagine a woman who is constantly chanting 'I don't need a man' out of fear that the term need makes her weak. Why would a man want to be with someone who doesn't need him. I need you has such a negative conotation that we don't really understand it. <br /><br />Independence in itself is a myth. We were created in pairs for a reason. Life exist within two. So really, as a human, we must learn how to coexist, meaning we depend on each other. When it comes to the black community, this belief started with the Willie Lynch letter, a blue print sent to slave masters on how to keep the race enslaved for centuries. Read it when you get a chance if you haven't, but it's a very explicit mechanism on how to separate black families, weaken the male, and keep the mother independent. And this cycle still continues...<br /><br />Anyway, attract a man who won't make you compromise your dreams or your career. But at the same time, all relationships require some form of sacrifice. In all honesty, no one wants to be on top alone...be successful and have no one to share it with. <br /><br />It's not even about the good vs. the bad guys but about meeting the person who you're supposed to be with, which doesn't alway come in a package you expect. Wait for a man who inspires you to be a better woman and is not intimidated by that. Until then, keep doing you until it happens. <br /><br />Hope that wasn't too long of a comment lol<br /><br />-Chymere AnaisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com